The Silent Spiral We All Fall Into
Have you ever stayed awake at night, replaying every conversation from the day,
wondering what you could have said differently? Or felt paralyzed deciding whether to
take that opportunity at work because “what if it goes wrong?” That’s overthinking in
action - fear disguised as preparation.
Overthinking doesn’t protect you. It paralyzes you. And here’s the harsh truth: most of
the storms you prepare for… never even come.
We’ve all been there. You want to take that next step - apply for a job, say yes to a
project, or send that bold message - but instead, your mind takes you hostage.
Suddenly you’re running “what if” scenarios, building imaginary disasters, and feeling
stuck between fear and fatigue.
It feels like control. But it’s actually fear in disguise.
A Story You’ll Relate To: Arjun’s Vacation That Never Began
I once coached a client who was a chronic overthinker. Let’s call him Arjun.
Arjun and his brother’s family planned a vacation abroad - something meant to be joyful
and refreshing. But instead of excitement, Arjun was consumed by worry.
Arjun was so worried that he suggested their families take separate flights. His
reasoning?
• “If something happens to one flight, at least one of us will survive to take care of the
families.”
What should have been a happy occasion became a source of stress. Instead of
imagining beach walks and laughter-filled dinners, his mind played disaster reels.
Arjun’s story shows us something crucial:
Overthinking isn’t about being “too thoughtful” or “too prepared.” It’s fear wearing a
clever disguise.